Hurting me, hurting you

The people that hurt you are doing the best they can with the knowledge, resources and information they have at the time.

​I have a friend who's going through a heartbreak and reminding her that the person she was with is and was doing the best he could seems to help a lot. Here's why; remembering that people are doing the best they can, always, takes the pressure off of you. It's not your fault, it's not their fault, it's not anyone's fault. No one is to blame. The person that hurt you was and is simply doing the best they could. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, or that it doesn't matter that they hurt you, it just means there's no one to blame. When there's no one to blame it becomes easier to move on, you don't have to stay angry. Recognizing there's no one to blame gives you the space to grieve but also the space to move on and not sit in your anger or resentment. If you're also needing to forgive yourself; you did the best you could with the knowledge, resources and information you had at the time. No one is to blame. 

Happy Monday, take care of yourselves this week! And remember, moving on means recognizing that you did all you could do but also that the other person did all they could do. 

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