Attachment Styles

Attachment styles are the ways in which we create relationships with other people, it's our go-to reaction when something happens and it's our mindset throughout relationship.

There are 3 main types of attachment, secure attachment, anxious attachment and avoidant attachment. Now the question is, which one are you? Here are some general characteristics for each type:

Secure:
~Being warm and loving in a relationship comes naturally to you
~You enjoy being intimate without becoming overly worried about the relationship
~You share your success and problems with your mate, and are able to be there for him or her in times of need

Anxious:
~You love to be very close to your partner and have the capacity for great intimacy but that intimacy comes with the fear that your partner does not wish to be as close as you do
~Relationships tend to consume a large part of your emotional energy
~You tend to be sensitive to your partner's moods and actions, although you tend to be accurate you also tend to take your partner's behaviors personally

Avoidant:
~Independence is very important to you, you often prefer autonomy to intimate relationships
~You do want to be close to others but feel uncomfortable when you get "too" close
~You tend not to open up to our partners and they often complain that you are emotionally distant

Where do you most identify? Everyone is on a journey so if you connect with more than one of the above that is completely natural. Stay tuned for more tips and tricks on how to bring your attachment closer to secure if you're more on the anxious or avoidant side, as well as how to connect with a partner that has a different attachment style than you. 

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Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller