Attachment Style Tips

Alright readers, here's the post on tips for each attachment style! Whichever attachment style you connected most with, read those tips on how to bring your specific style closer to secure. And remember, it takes time to build habits, take on one tip at a time until you've got it down and then build on that progress by adding another.

Anxious Attachment:
1. Learn when to reach out to your friends or loved ones. Are you wanting to connect with the other person or wanting to regulate yourself? Some questions to ask: "Is this interaction to benefit myself or the relationship?" and "Who is the best person to talk to about my situation?" 
2. Let go of relationships when your need for security isn't being met. Anxiously attached people often gravitate towards avoidantly attached people, when this happens the relationship usually blows up.
3. Try to look for secure people in your life and see how they interact with their friends/loved ones/partners. This can help give you an example of what to strive for. 

Avoidant Attachment:
1. Start exploring your own emotions. If you don't understand how you feel and when you want to connect it's going to be very hard for you to empathize with your partner. Understand that they have legitimate feelings, validate them whenever possible.
2. If you need to take space from someone or a situation identify when you will be coming back. Hold yourself accountable to it. Anxiously attached people usually find themselves in relationships with avoidantly attached people and the exact opposite is true.
3. Know your partner and their triggers so you can get ahead of them while also recognizing your own so you can take steps towards more healthy reactions when triggers push your buttons. 

As always, if you or someone you know is struggling with this concept or needs help creating balance in their relationships or their life contact me to set up a complimentary discovery call.