Happiness comes in waves
This week’s blog is going to be a bit of a story time focusing around balance. Life balance, work balance, relationship balance, you name it.
When I was younger I had no sense of balance, I’m talking walking into walls... Granted I was 3 years old so that probably had something to do with it but still. As I grew up I stopped walking into walls but I continued to have no sense of balance, I would over work myself, over schedule myself and start tearing my own hair out due to stress.
I’m not going to tell you some huge success story because honestly, I still struggle with it. What I will tell you is that just like most things, it takes practice. It’s easy to get lost in the every day but carving out those times for yourself is so important, especially now, among all the crazy world circumstances. Doing the work to educate yourself and those around you takes emotional labor - a term we will dive into next week - make sure that as you change the world, you’re also making time for yourself. I stress this point a lot in my blog and my work because I know what it’s like to not make time for yourself and to not be able to differentiate between yourself, what you want and others and what they want. Giving yourself the gift of a balanced life can help you spend the time with yourself to really delve into your own wants and needs.
Remember, everyone needs someone, if you’d like a little extra push or a cheerleader to bring you through some difficult situations I’m here to help! Go to my services page to learn more about pricing or scheduling your complimentary discovery call. Have an awesome week!
There are 6 different aspects of self love as seen in the previous blog post. I've attached a wonderfully informational document I found on Pinterest that defines the different types.
When you are making time for yourself and working on self love, remember to be intentional about the type of self love you show yourself. If you get a lot of social self love but not a lot of spiritual self love, focus on something spiritual. Also, acknowledge the self love that you do, if you let it go without acknowledgement it won't feel as momentous, it won't feel as comforting as if you take the time to sit with and give space to the love you're already giving yourself.
I want to talk about giving grace, both to yourself and to those around you and even still to those you don't know. In this time of change and complete uncertainty it is important to give yourself grace. When you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed out give yourself grace, don't judge yourself or others too harshly, even baby steps make a difference. If all you can do is baby steps, take it. Rejoice in those baby steps. If you take a step in the wrong direction, acknowledge it, understand it and then move in a different direction. There is no "right" or "wrong" choice, there is only the choice you make. You are doing the best you can, give yourself some grace if you "mess up", find the lesson in your mistake and then give yourself the grace and the space to move forward from it.
Remember, if you need help giving yourself grace and finding the space for yourself or others feel free to reach out for a coaching session or a discovery call.
I want to talk about your reservoir of self love. When you take care of yourself you fill up your reservoir of love, self love. When that reservoir is empty you can't take care of another person, there's no room. Maintaining your own reservoir is very important, not only for you but also for others. Having a full reservoir means you have more to give, you can show your love more freely because you aren't trying desperately to hold on to the small amount of love you have left. When love is abundant within yourself it makes it easier to love others. Being able to prioritize yourself with this mindset that it will ultimately help others will make it easier to take the time and space for yourself. Now the question is how?
We all know the trendy self care activities including, take a bubble bath, light some candles, put on a face mask, etc. However, there are actually more things you can do! You can meditate, connect with nature by taking a walk, connect with an old friend, play with animals, and so much more. Next week's blog post will go over the 6 different types of self love and what to do when you aren't nurturing that aspect so stay tuned!
Shout out to Just Break Up - a wonderful relationship advice podcast that eloquently discusses the reservoir of self love.
Standing up is one of the most brave and empowering things you can do. Standing up when the world is in a state of crisis is even more brave and even more empowering.
Stand up for yourself, take the space you need. Standing up takes courage but you are capable, you are strong enough and you are worthy.
Now the question is how?
1. Take stock of your emotions when certain topics come up
2. Sit with yourself and your feelings surrounding those topics
3. Determine what you can do that will bring you back into alignment with yourself
4. Now do it, stand up, ask for what you need and don't give up
Everyone is worthy of standing up and taking up space.
I support individuals who find their lives are unbalanced, whether that's from working too much, having unhealthy relationships with themselves or others, or simply needing more from their lives.